Considerations on the friendship
“The friendship like pathology”

Friendship has been always capacities to hold in great consideration the called feeling, than Socrate for first to Atene, began to analyze and to study just considering it a true independent feeling and, with which the men, relazionavano between they, everyone attracted from the other people's diversities. This concept has been handed on in the time and at a distance of 2.500 years it is succeeding in to our days, continuing to transport “the misunderstanding and the ambiguity”. The misunderstanding and the ambiguity are in the fact that if the etimologia of the Greek word “philia”, conserve in its meant, is friendship that love. The friendship cannot be considered a feeling, but an intermediate phase, a propedeutico exercise through which the true feeling can be caught up just and, that is “the love”. Therefore when the friendship is considered, erroneously, a feeling of increase, synonym of maturity or still better, an adult attitude; the test that it is not consists just in the fact that gives children is capacities just to cultivate this embryo of feeling, in spasmodic way also, making it to degenerate until: <<l' friend of the cuore>>, placing also to risk, or facilitating them, the guidelines also of sexual type. Such attitude but, normal school in the adolescenziale phase, adult age would have to change the own nature and, modified, to become Love. In fact, if in the adolescenziale age, it is stretched to search in the friend that that is not, or that that would be wanted to be made it to become, until its estremizzazione, just “alter the ego”; from adults these searches in the comparisons of a just similar one are addressed, normally of opposite sex, that it has for the note, just those fascinating important diversities, in how much damage origin most times, to forming themselves of one new brace; contributing also to consolidate it in the time. Saying that can some be deduced that “the Love” is the only attitude, of completed, such sense to consider a feeling, and the friendship, solo a humor. Just in the event of the love, in fact, the thought begins them of Socrate that considered the diversity and the opposite ones, the fundamental principles of the attraction, is valid to all the effects. Socrate considers the “feeling” of the estendibile friendship to all. But it considers also the fact that if it is estendibile to all, and if the diversities are attracted, what would have prohibited being born of a friendship, between ladro and its jailer, or between he who it believes in the good and he who believes in the evil? In front of this question it places its doubt. Doubt justified in how much had considered the friendship like a feeling. If it is gone to bottom of the feeling meant one we notice that for being considered such, the feeling it must be addressed from a subject in the comparisons of an other subject, opportunely chosen, like as an example, the love where the beneficiary is the loved person or hatred where the beneficiary is the hated person, the depreciation where the beneficiary is he who despises or the courage, only between the feelings where the beneficiary only resides in the comparisons of if same; being decided, in its estremizzazione, also to the extreme gesture. With this clarity the possibility will be only had then to discern the “good ones” from “malvagi”, the “just ones” from the “unjust ones” and therefore via…; everyone second the own behavioural and ethical parameters or second the own conscience, with which they are operated determined choices, feelings lavished with oculatezza and parsimony, and not dispensed to full hands and chicchessia, recurrent in the relationships of such friendship or presumed attitude. Therefore, it can be concluded that, the extension in adult phase of the practical one of the friendship, exasperated in its manifestation, can be considered a pathological attitude legacy to the difficulty of increase of an individual, than it has not been in degree through several causes, individualistic, to exceed those generational barriers that have been introduced during the own formation, from the adolescenziale age to the adult age. We notice moreover that leaving from such principles, inequivocabili, the by now confused relationships, between the adolescents, they can improve; since they do not ask other that clear answers to interrogated to you, unsolved, in merit to love and friendship. Consentendogli, if not other with respect to this problem, to grow with the clarity of that they are the roles, of lover or friend, and to improve those that will be the own future relationships with the similar ones. Giosuč Marongiu Maracalagonis 21 september 2005 Based on of the exceptions you raise, me to me seems right to emphasize that: with that I do not mean to deny the existence of the friendship, but to only reorganize it to a relationship that is born between the individuals, founded on the sympathy, or in its maximum manifestation, in the empathy. Therefore not in a feeling, as I have already said previously, true and just, but in a propedeutico exercise in the attainment of the love, adolescenziale phase, and the adult age, like completion of the relations, than joined to the love, in all its manifestations, concur to the attainment of the happiness.

Giosuč Marongiu
Maracalagonis 11 January 2005